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Alateen
is for young people whose lives have been affected by someone
else's drinking. Sometimes, the active drinking has stopped,
or the active drinker may not live with us anymore. Even
though the alcohol may be gone, and the alcoholic gone or
recovering in AA, we are still affected. Many of us have
received help from Alateen or Al-Anon. The following twenty
questions are to help you decide whether or not Alateen is for
you.
1. Do you
believe no one could possibly understand how you
feel?
2. Do you cover up your real feelings by
pretending you don't care?
3. Do you feel
nobody really loves you or cares what happens to you?
4. Do you tell
lies to cover up for some one else's drinking or what's
happening in your home?
5. Do you stay
out of the house as much as possible because you hate it
there?
6. Are you
afraid or embarrassed to bring your friends home?
7. Has
someone's drinking upset you?
8. Are holidays
and gatherings spoiled because of drinking or others'
reactions to the drinking?
9. Are you
afraid to speak up sometimes for fear it will set off a
drinking bout or start another fight?
10. Do you think the
drinker's behavior is caused by you, other members of your
family, friends, or rotten breaks in life?
11. Do you make
threats such as, "If you don't stop drinking and fighting,
I'll run away"?
12. Do you make
promises about behavior, such as, "I'll get better grades,"
"go to church," or "keep my room clean" in exchange for a
promise that the drinking and fighting stop?
13. Do you feel that
if your mom or dad loved you, she or he would stop drinking?
14. Do you ever
threaten or actually hurt yourself to scare your parents into
saying "I'm sorry," or "I love you"?
15. Do you or your
family have money problems because of someone else's drinking?
16. Are mealtimes
frequently stressful or delayed because of drinking or
fighting?
17. Have you
considered calling the police because of the abusive behavior
in your home?
18. Have you refused
dates because your date may find out about the drinking or
fighting?
19. Do you think your
problems would be solved if the drinking stopped?
20. Do you
ever treat people (teachers, schoolmates, teammates, etc.)
unjustly because you are angry at someone else for drinking
too much?
If you answered yes to some of these
questions, Alateen may be able to help you.
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